So it really has come. I have to share my baby. B goes to stay his first weekend with his father. It amazes me that the foster care system doesn't build up to extended stays, but as usual my opinion doesn't matter. I started talking about it this mornign with the kids and I'm not sure how much they understood. Life is going to rapidly start changing. He's going to start being gone and then probably permantly and my schedule is changing with school back in. This is going to be an interesting weekend. I hope it goes well.
Yesterday the early education staff came to the house and both kids were the best they have been, absolutely no fits. It was interesting to see. They both almost acted like normal children. To some length I'm happy about that, but in someway I wish they would have shown some of the challenges a little more.
School has started and life is much busier, I'm glad too.
Friday, August 17, 2012
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Please, Thank you, and other manners
One of the things I try to do with my foster kids and well my school kids too, is to instill good manners. This includes saying please and thank you. G has refused to say please despite the fact I know she can. It's almost as if she shuts down when you try to get her to say it. Finally this past weekend though she started to use the word. You have to remind her to say it, but she does. She was already doing pretty well on using Thank you. now we just have to get B to use it.
Today they had court and I guess it went odd. their mom and family tried to get the court to move them out of here because "they get sick so much" - Not true they are in daycare so of course they are going to get sick. B's dad is now going to get weekend visits every weekend. And then a 30 day trial. Yeah I don't think so. That's not fair to me and not fair to G. Either move him or don't. I'm so frustrated over that. I shouldn't have to put even more of my life on hold for a kid that isn't mine and because TFI is so dumb. I don't think they really do anything for the kids sake. And honestly if they are going to have extended visits then why does it always have to be the weekend? Why not during the week- see if they can handle him while they work and stuff. So stupid. And to top it off this 30 day trial may mean I can't take other kids and they can just keep him at the end. ridiculous. And if he comes back, how is that helping G. Their mom isn't keeping up on what she's supposed to be doing and I guess they threw a fit in court and almost got kicked out, blaming the situation on TFI and me. Why do I put myself in all these frustrating situations.
Also I'm trying to redo my living room floor and that's ending in disaster. Arg. oh well.
Today they had court and I guess it went odd. their mom and family tried to get the court to move them out of here because "they get sick so much" - Not true they are in daycare so of course they are going to get sick. B's dad is now going to get weekend visits every weekend. And then a 30 day trial. Yeah I don't think so. That's not fair to me and not fair to G. Either move him or don't. I'm so frustrated over that. I shouldn't have to put even more of my life on hold for a kid that isn't mine and because TFI is so dumb. I don't think they really do anything for the kids sake. And honestly if they are going to have extended visits then why does it always have to be the weekend? Why not during the week- see if they can handle him while they work and stuff. So stupid. And to top it off this 30 day trial may mean I can't take other kids and they can just keep him at the end. ridiculous. And if he comes back, how is that helping G. Their mom isn't keeping up on what she's supposed to be doing and I guess they threw a fit in court and almost got kicked out, blaming the situation on TFI and me. Why do I put myself in all these frustrating situations.
Also I'm trying to redo my living room floor and that's ending in disaster. Arg. oh well.
Tuesday, August 7, 2012
Out of Control
Ok so I've lasted about as long as I can. The little girl in my care is out of control and lately we seem to be getting worse. Over the weekend she was ultra violent and threw tantrums like crazy. She grabbed an empty pop can and threw it at my brother's face. It was so bad that we went to my parents so there was so more buffer to take her attitude. The little boy cried constantly and is throwing tantrums.
Little girl is whiney and acts like a high pitched dog. She touches others inappropriately (rubs her face on them or her mouth- and my brother it falls on a very inappropriate place.) If you say no to her or remove something from her she goes into a massive screaming and sometimes kicking fit. The last few days have included throwing items. She absolutely does not stop doing things when asked and will say no over and over when she is asked. Part of the problem is she refuses to take naps and she still very much needs them. On the rare time that she is normal she has started to ask a lot of questions about what things are and can even have normal conversations.
Little boy is affected with hand mouth and foot disease and was able to return to daycare even with a few spots, but now little girl can't go because of two spots. arg. He has been fussy and whiney and throws tantrums when looked at.
I am so frustrated with myself because they are getting to me so bad. I don't know what to do with them. I think maybe they need to be moved, but I don't want to be the start of many homes and they are so little. It's amazing how much they need in the way of guidance. I keep hoping going back to work this week will help me some. I don't like myself with them. I need to do better about staying calm and working with their moods. I'm also waiting till their first court date to see when happens with little boy and his parent. I'm not sure they will be kept together, but only time will tell.
Little girl is whiney and acts like a high pitched dog. She touches others inappropriately (rubs her face on them or her mouth- and my brother it falls on a very inappropriate place.) If you say no to her or remove something from her she goes into a massive screaming and sometimes kicking fit. The last few days have included throwing items. She absolutely does not stop doing things when asked and will say no over and over when she is asked. Part of the problem is she refuses to take naps and she still very much needs them. On the rare time that she is normal she has started to ask a lot of questions about what things are and can even have normal conversations.
Little boy is affected with hand mouth and foot disease and was able to return to daycare even with a few spots, but now little girl can't go because of two spots. arg. He has been fussy and whiney and throws tantrums when looked at.
I am so frustrated with myself because they are getting to me so bad. I don't know what to do with them. I think maybe they need to be moved, but I don't want to be the start of many homes and they are so little. It's amazing how much they need in the way of guidance. I keep hoping going back to work this week will help me some. I don't like myself with them. I need to do better about staying calm and working with their moods. I'm also waiting till their first court date to see when happens with little boy and his parent. I'm not sure they will be kept together, but only time will tell.
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